I have something to share with you that I hope you remember as you walk hand in hand into your relationships!
The Heart Is Ever Hopeful
The heart always wants to be in love. It always craves connection because the heart know that connection to another at the super vulnerable level of LOVE has the power to heal...even if your head decides you've had enough of heart break...your heart has a love switch that takes alot to turn off.
The thing is...LOVE only has the power to heal in very specific circumstances.
1. You need to be ready to be vulnerable
2. You need to have done your inner work when single, so that you KNOW yourself so well there is no doubt as to when your triggers are going off...cause let's face it, in relationship they will! AND
3. You need to choose a partner that is conscious enough to meet you in CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP...because let's face it, anything else is soooo not worth your beautiful Soul's time and effort.
Sure, there are some other things to check such as "Do you both want the same things out of life?" or "Do they want children?" or "Do they have any beliefs that don't gel with yours?" because most of us FORGET to check in with ourselves when we are attracted to someone.
The feelings quickly take over and the heart can become quickly hooked if we don't do our homework!
And so...this is partly why we shouldn't always trust our heart because our heart is so hopeful that it launches it's love attack on our bodies very easily and infiltrates our brain with images of future's that may not come to pass!
Now, I'm not trying to get you to dismiss your heart either. You see, we NEED a marriage of heart, soul and mind when it comes to love.
Your head can quickly dismiss people who may be perfect for you!
Your heart can latch onto people who are truly BAD for you and who may hold you back from you reaching your highest purpose.
Your SOUL however, knows if a person is ultimately right for you!
You need all three to be ALIGNED and to then keep a watchful eye for signs of subconscious attraction coming into play.
You see, it's not just the heart that's involved here!
Our subconscious selves, highly programmed in childhood, come out to play when dating and in our relationships. We are attracted to people not just because of how they look or how funny they are or how cool they appear to be. We are also attracted to them somewhat unfortunately, based on our match of inner WOUNDS!
This is where we need to look at our ENERGETIC FREQUENCY! What are we putting out there? Even when we say we want one thing, why do we end up with another!?
Take these inner wounds for example. They may manifest themselves differently, but many times they are there in our choice of partner all the same. And so it's best as a CONSCIOUS CREATOR of love to be a SEEKER OF TRUTH inside and out when it comes to matters of the heart.
You see your first TRUE LOVE is that of yourself. We believe as children this is our parents and in many ways this can be the case...but your Parents love was perhaps conditional based on their beliefs about who you should be and show up as...and so our first TRUE LOVE is truly US because we are the ONLY ones who can love ourselves FULLY into the powerful Conscious Creators we are meant to be!...more on that another day...but you can see how important it is to literally FALL IN LOVE with OURSELVES, because then we will NEVER accept a love that is less than our own love!
I've just delivered you a golden key!
Though you may be left wondering what I'm going on about! The truth is, without you recovering all the lost parts of yourself,...things you have dismissed and diminished...and without you really KNOWING yourself, you are at a deficit when you step into relationship.
You know that old saying of "my other half" or that even more abhorrent one "You complete me!"...this is what happens when we are attracted to those people who have matching wounds (WOUND MATES disguised as SOUL MATES) OR we are attracted to those who have the elements of ourselves that we have not yet reintegrated or owned!
Instead of feeling like a whole person stepping into relationship with another whole person, many times we suddenly feel so at home because the other person emodies the very thing(s) we are being asked by Soul to own and instead of doing that work, we bring someone into our experience who has "done it for us".
I'll be speaking more on this topic and talking all things relationship this week on Facebook so make sure you join my Soul Circle to get the inside scoop on becoming more Conscious in your Relationships!
Back to the heart and why, at times, it can be misleading...
When the heart leads without our awareness (head in sync) and Soul (Soul intuition switched on guiding you with prompts of yes and no)...then the heart can and WILL lead you down the merry path of "True Love" time after time after time.
We've all lived this...those relationships we thought were fruitful that we found left us with crumbs!
You, as a Conscious Lover KNOW that you deserve more and so I encourage you to look deep within and ask yourself what you truly desire. Find out what you truly NEED. Uncover your wounds around men or women (look at your parents first for any woundings around male or female) and look at your conditioning (the beliefs you have about yourself and love in particular in this case!) and what you need to embody before stepping into love.
I'm NOT saying that you have to be perfect! Not AT ALL...but you do have to be AWARE because awareness breeds consciousness and when you do the work you have way MORE of a chance of delivering to yourself a love that is lasting rather than a love that causes you the heart break we all fear.
Sure...heartbreak is still gonna happen sometimes because we are human and no one is perfect and makes perfect choices AND sometimes we need to learn who is wrong for us before we KNOW WHO'S RIGHT!
I look forward to connecting with you Conscious Lovers more this week!
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